Filling the Void
Love is a constant, but it is to be chosen in all aspects of life. It is always there but our own expectations and conditioning determine the taste and we either reject or accept it. That is how different people are able to love completely different people/things. We all develop different tastes for what is abundant.
After realizing that it’s always there, we can allow ourselves to genuinely love everyone/everything without attachment or expectation. This helps us to see and appreciate people/things for who/what they are and understand their purpose. Even bad tasting people/things have their purpose, and the irony is that it is only love that can convert bad tasting people/things into good (good and bad being relative to the taster). Real love gives genuine purpose to be beneficial or better tasting to the other without wagering on anything. If there are expectations, love can’t be felt because it is an agreement based on desires and expectations. Like a job that you would not go to if you were not getting paid for it. The money may be worth it, but your life is empty if you spend it outside of fulfillment.
If searching to fulfill our desires we can’t find love, it is because we’re searching to fulfill our desires instead of being open to love. Love is not desire. Love is the substance, desire is something that happens after the taste and trying to fill up on sweetener is not healthy. After realizing that, the deception potentially comes into play. This is where we consider the likeliness of our desires being exploited and manipulated to benefit the other instead of having a mutual appreciative relationship. The irony of this is that it is our own desires we have come to love, and we can’t figure out why we can’t fill the voids inside of us. Here is why; we identify ourselves through other people, especially people who are close to us. This goes both ways. We also identify others through ourselves. If we have just noticed that we only love an expectation that the other has to try to live up to, we also know that the other might be doing just the same. We will never truly know or love each other in a way we can experience or appreciate. The love will be there but it won’t be eaten, both will be left hungry and the void will grow.