Internal Guidance

We are each other.

Realizing this will give us great power in understanding and redirecting our egos according to a bigger picture rather than our individual selves.  Sometimes our ego (as a result of our understanding of our identity) will want to win so badly to benefit itself, that everyone ends up losing.  This happens because we attach our ego to ideas that shape our understanding of who we are.  For example, had my ego believed I was an American citizen, Christian, graduate, middle class, member of whatever political party, I would not be permitting myself to travel through empathy as I do now.  I may empathize strongly within the confinements of what agrees with my identity, but to freely travel elsewhere would destroy who I thought I was.

Lose to win.

After realizing that our identity is infinite and should never be confined, our egos will become more beneficial and less defensive.  Your ego is my ego and mine is yours.  I can feel what I feed to your ego as you can feel what you feed to mine.  We become aware of where we are going instead of being victim to reacting to each others defenses.  When this is not happening mutually we may choose to lose in order to win because our reactions are not determined by defending something vulnerable.  An infinite identity has nothing to defend, it can only expand.  The art of losing to win is simple.  It only requires the awareness of identity and the situational process instead of the current state.  When facing an ego with a confined identity who displays emotional responses and demands, one can choose to feed whatever it is their ego is demanding.  This will trigger a success response in that ego and it will do two things at that point; lower its defenses and ask or demand for more.  This is where you allow their ego to overfeed itself while its defenses are down, which enables it for realization.  There is a magical tiny window of opportunity when an ego questions itself after overfeeding.  It will have a moment of inclination to dislike itself.  At this point you must be crafty in how you package your delivery because it will go far into their identity that they were protecting.  This is not something to do without nobleness and humility.  The end result should be love and understanding.  The point is to free each other from our identity crisis.